Warming lube is for when you want touch to feel a little different.

Use it externally first and start with less than you think. A small amount on the inner thighs, lower stomach, nipples or around the penis or vulva can add a gentle warming sensation without needing to bring in a toy straight away.

Warming formulas can feel different on different bodies, so give it a moment before adding more, especially if your skin is sensitive.

A massage is one of the easiest ways to slow the pace and build anticipation.

Start with the shoulders, back, hips or thighs and let touch do the talking. You do not need a full spa routine. Just steady pressure, a little time and something that feels good on skin.

A massage friendly kit gives you more slip than regular body lotion and makes the move from massage to intimacy feel natural.

Flavoured lube can add a little extra fun to oral, giving you taste, glide and a more playful way to build the moment.

Use a small amount to start. A light layer is enough to add flavour and smoothness without taking over.

If you are using flavoured lube around the vulva, choose sugar free where possible and clean up afterwards, especially if you are prone to irritation.

If your toy is silicone, water based lube is the safest choice.

Silicone lube can damage silicone toys over time, while water based lube is designed to play nicely with most toys, condoms and kinds of partner play.

Apply a little to the toy and a little to the body, then reapply as needed. It helps everything feel smoother from the first touch.

Shower sex sounds good for a reason. Steam, skin, water and closeness already do half the work.

The one thing water does not do is replace lube. For shower sex or water play, silicone lube is usually the better choice because it lasts longer and does not rinse off as quickly.

Use a small amount and be mindful on tiled or slippery surfaces.

Do not use silicone lube with silicone toys.

Hand play is one of the easiest things to elevate with lube.

It reduces friction, makes rhythm changes easier and lets you play with pressure, pace and both hands more comfortably. It also makes the whole experience feel more deliberate, not rushed.

If you want something with more sensation than a standard water based formula, an arousal style lube can be a good place to start.

Lube is not only useful once penetration starts. It is useful before.

Use a small amount on fingers, the tip of a penis or the end of a toy and spend more time around the entrance before going further. It can help reduce friction, make the body feel more ready and turn the build-up into part of the experience.

This is especially helpful when you want things to feel slower, softer and more connected.

A small amount of lube can make condoms feel smoother and more comfortable.

Add one small drop inside the tip of the condom before putting it on, then add more to the outside once it is on. You do not need much inside, as too much can make the condom more likely to slip.

Use water based or silicone based lube with latex condoms and avoid oil based products, as oil can weaken latex.

Not every use of lube needs to involve penetration.

Silicone lube works well for external body glide because it lasts longer and gives skin a smoother feel than many water based formulas. Use it for thighs, hips, chest, grinding, massage or body to body contact.

It is a simple way to make touch feel different without changing everything else.

Just keep silicone lube away from silicone toys.

Anal play feels better with the right prep.

The anus does not self lubricate, so a thicker formula can help create more cushion and make the experience smoother and more comfortable. Reapply often and take your time.

Start slowly, communicate clearly and stop if anything feels painful. This is one of those moments where preparation is part of the pleasure.