How to Get Started with Anal Massage

Wander into any well-stocked adult store, and you’ll likely come across a dedicated section for massage products—and for good reason. Massage is one of the most intimate and versatile ways to connect with a partner or explore your own body.

Whether you’re gently warming up to a new lover or deepening intimacy with someone familiar, it offers a gateway into pleasure—and yes, that includes anal massage.

Regardless of whether you’re more on the vanilla side or lean toward kink, massage is a universally accessible way to build trust, ignite arousal, and explore new sensations. It’s especially helpful when preparing for anal play, such as fingering or penetration, offering a relaxed and enjoyable path into deeper experiences.

Let’s assume you’ve already had an open chat with your partner, lover, or FWB about trying anal massage—because communication and consent are essential .

Next comes hygiene. Give your body the usual pre-anal play clean-up.

And if you’re the one delivering the massage, give your fingernails a once-over. Sharp edges and sensitive anal tissue do not pair well, so file your nails smooth and neat.

1. Lubricant

While massage oil is ideal for full-body relaxation, water-based lube is the go-to choice for anal massage. It's safe to use with condoms and silicone toys—something oil- and silicone-based lubes can't offer.

Planning to transition from massage to penetration or toys? Stick with water-based lube. For easier internal application, an anal lube applicator (a.k.a. lube shooter) makes things far less messy and more effective.

2. Gloves & Finger Protection

Whether you use nitrile gloves or finger cots , these aren’t just about hygiene—they also smooth over sharp nails and reduce friction. Think of them like wetsuits for your fingers. For shallow play, finger cots are fine. If you’re planning a more involved internal massage, full gloves are better.

3. Toys & Vibrators

To enhance both external and internal anal massage, you can bring in toys like vibrators or plugs.

A compact wand like the Le Wand Petite is perfect. Its small head allows for pinpoint stimulation on the perineum or around a butt plug’s base. Add its multiple vibration settings, and you get a mix of deep, rumbly pleasure that can be felt inside and out. Want more intensity? Attach the Petite Curve to turn your wand into an internal vibe.

If you’re after a gentler experience, try the Snug Plug , which has internal weights that move with your body. These can be worn during external massage to layer internal sensation—like having a second set of hands.

Prefer everything in one go?

Save yourself the hassle— b-Vibe’s Anal Massage & Education Set bundles everything together:

• Finger and hand gloves

• Reusable mini douche

• Lube shooter

• Clean-up towel

• Travel pouch

• Education booklet with tips from hygiene to aftercare

It’s a perfect intro kit for curious beginners or those looking to elevate their anal play.

Start by donning gloves and generously applying lube to the anus. Use the soft pads of your fingers , not the tips, to apply varying pressure. Begin by gently circling the anus with one finger, gradually increasing speed and intensity.

Then, make tight, concentrated circles —imagine drawing small loops. Add in horizontal strokes across the anus using one to three fingers, depending on comfort. More fingers mean broader surface contact, which can feel incredibly stimulating.

To use both hands, try this: stroke downward and outward with your index fingers, or press upward and outward with your thumbs for a wider reach.

And don’t forget your vibe! A small vibrator like the Le Wand Bullet can mimic these movements while adding vibration. Even used externally, a powerful vibe can stimulate the prostate through the perineum —ideal for those not quite ready for penetration.

Internal anal massage is deeply pleasurable for many people—with or without a prostate. The key? Take it slow.

Make sure both the anus and rectal canal are lubricated (a lube shooter is especially handy here). Gently insert your finger and begin with shallow movements—pressing into the outer ring of muscle. Use circular motions , slowly rotating your finger like a clock hand while maintaining steady contact with the muscle wall.

Go deeper slowly, up to the second knuckle , allowing the sphincter to relax and accommodate your touch. If your partner has a prostate, you can begin stimulation by curling your finger toward their belly button in a come-hither motion. Use the soft pads of your fingers to apply pressure.

If using fingers isn’t your thing, there are toys made for internal massage:

• Snug Plug : gently weighted for subtle movement

• Triplet or Cinco Beads : for progressive, flexible stimulation

• Petite Curve or Ripple Attachments : for turning your wand into a curved internal massager

Combining texture, motion, and vibration creates an unforgettable massage experience—whether you're building up to orgasm or simply savouring the journey.

Anal massage is more than just a warm-up—it’s a sensual, connective experience in its own right. With the right tools, clear communication, and a sense of curiosity, it can unlock a whole new world of pleasure.

Ready to explore? Grab your lube, gloves, and go slow—your body will thank you.